{"id":45288,"date":"2020-03-30T21:58:16","date_gmt":"2020-03-30T18:58:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bghaber.org\/bghaber\/?p=45288"},"modified":"2020-03-31T02:34:04","modified_gmt":"2020-03-30T23:34:04","slug":"islamda-aile-ve-ailenin-cokusu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bghaber.org\/bghaber\/islamda-aile-ve-ailenin-cokusu\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0130slam&#8217;da Aile ve Ailenin \u00c7\u00f6k\u00fc\u015f\u00fc"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>D\u00fczce \u0130l Milli E\u011fitim M\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc,<br \/>\nMaarif M\u00fcfetti\u015fi, E\u011fitimci Yazar<br \/>\nNevzat \u00d6ZT\u00dcRK<\/p>\n<p>Toplumun \u00e7ekirde\u011fini aile olu\u015fturur. Bir toplumun gelece\u011fini tahmin etmek \u201c<em>de\u011ferler<\/em>\u201d\u009d a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan aile yap\u0131s\u0131na bakmakla m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. De\u011ferler; k\u00fclt\u00fcr ve topluma anlam veren k\u0131staslard\u0131r. Zira de\u011ferler, co\u015fkularla birlikte bulunur; ki\u015filer y\u00fcce de\u011ferler i\u00e7in \u00f6zveride bulunur. Burada s\u00f6z\u00fc edilen de\u011ferler, kayna\u011f\u0131 ilahi olan bir g\u00fcce dayan\u0131r ki, biz buna \u201c<em>manev\u00ee de\u011ferler<\/em>\u201d\u009d ad\u0131n\u0131 veriyoruz. Bizim toplumumuz M\u00fcsl\u00fcman oldu\u011funa g\u00f6re, bizde en \u00fcst kimlik din olup, de\u011fer \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcm\u00fcz de \u0130slamiyet\u2019tir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Cenab-\u0131 Hak,\u00a0<strong><em>\u201cEy iman edenler! Allah\u2019tan, O\u2019na yara\u015f\u0131r \u015fekilde korkun ve ancak M\u00fcsl\u00fcmanlar olarak can verin.\u201d\u009d<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0<strong>(Al-i \u0130mran Suresi, 3\/102])<\/strong>\u00a0buyurarak, baz\u0131 \u015feyler kaybedilebilir ama M\u00fcsl\u00fcman olmak, yani \u0130slam\u2019\u0131 din olarak se\u00e7mek her \u015feyden daha \u00f6nemlidir, mesaj\u0131n\u0131 vermektedir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130slam\u2019da aile yap\u0131s\u0131 kutsald\u0131r. <\/strong>Aile yap\u0131m\u0131z bu kutsall\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, en y\u00fcce de\u011fer kayna\u011f\u0131 olan Kur\u2019an ve sahih s\u00fcnnetten al\u0131r. Nitekim Kur\u2019an-\u0131 Kerim\u2019de\u00a0<strong><em>\u201cAllah, size kendi cinsinizden e\u015fler, o e\u015flerinizden de o\u011fullar ve torunlar yaratt\u0131. Sizi helal ve g\u00fczel g\u0131dalarla r\u0131z\u0131kland\u0131rd\u0131. Onlar, h\u00e2l\u00e2 bat\u0131la m\u0131 inan\u0131yorlar? ve Allah\u2019\u0131n nimetini ink\u00e2r m\u0131 ediyorlar?\u201d\u009d<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0<strong>(Nahl Suresi, 16\/72])\u00a0<\/strong>buyuran Rabbimiz, evlilik ve aile konusunun \u00f6nemine dikkatimizi \u00e7ekmi\u015ftir. Peygamber Efendimiz (as) ise hem kendisi evlenmi\u015f, hem de evlili\u011fi \u015fu m\u00fcbarek s\u00f6zleri ile te\u015fvik buyurmu\u015ftur:\u00a0<strong><em>\u201cEvlenmeye g\u00fcc\u00fc yetip de evlenmeyen benden (benim \u00fcmmetimden) de\u011fildir.\u201d\u009d<\/em>\u00a0(Beyhak\u00ee ve Taberan\u00ee)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u0130slam\u2019da aile, \u00fcmmeti meydana getiren yap\u0131n\u0131n en temel birimidir. Bir bina i\u00e7in temel ne kadar \u00f6nemli ise, \u00fcmmet i\u00e7in de aile o kadar \u00f6nemlidir. Fertler aileleri, aileler de \u00fcmmeti olu\u015fturdu\u011funa g\u00f6re; bu yap\u0131da fertlerin \u00f6nemi de asla g\u00f6z ard\u0131 edilemez. Bu nedenle aileyi meydana getirecek olan bireylerden i\u015fe ba\u015flamak ve konuya bu noktadan bakmak daha yerinde olacakt\u0131r. \u201c<em>Anas\u0131na bak k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 al<\/em>\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc,\u00a0 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za e\u015f se\u00e7me konusunda kullan\u0131lan bir k\u0131stas olarak bilinir. Bunun yan\u0131nda \u201c<em>Helal s\u00fct emmi\u015f, insan evlad\u0131\u201d<\/em> gibi \u00f6zellikler de aran\u0131r. \u0130yi bir aile yuvas\u0131 kurmak i\u00e7in, \u201c<em>M\u00fcslim, m\u00fctedeyyin, helal lokma ile yeti\u015fmi\u015f, ehli namus<\/em>\u201d bir aileye mensup olanlar\u0131 tercih etmekle i\u015fe do\u011fru ba\u015flamak olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ferdi yeti\u015ftiren ilk mektep aile ortam\u0131d\u0131r. Bu i\u015fin uzmanlar\u0131nca 0-3 ya\u015f, \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00f6\u011frenece\u011fi \u015feyleri en yo\u011fun olarak \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fi zaman dilimi olarak ifade edilmektedir. Bu nedenle bu devrede \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za verece\u011fimiz bilgilere \u00e7ok dikkat etmemiz gerekmektedir<\/strong>. Biz buna \u201cokul \u00f6ncesi e\u011fitim\u201d diyelim. Burada \u00f6\u011fretici unsur anne baba ve bunlar\u0131n da yan\u0131nda varsa b\u00fcy\u00fck anne -baba ve karde\u015fler ile birlikte olu\u015fan aile ortam\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. Ailenin mutfa\u011f\u0131nda ne pi\u015ferse evde onun kokusu hissedildi\u011fi gibi, aile ortam\u0131nda ya\u015fanan ne varsa, o \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n tertemiz haf\u0131zas\u0131na kaydedilecektir. \u00c7ocuklar ninelerinin \u015fefkatli kollar\u0131nda huzur bulurken; dedelerinin hayat tecr\u00fcbelerini, \u201c<em>olgun bir arkada\u015f\u0131n a\u011fz\u0131ndan<\/em>\u201d dinleyerek b\u00fcy\u00fcrler. Bu tip aile yap\u0131lar\u0131, ferdin doya-doya mensubiyet duygusunu i\u00e7selle\u015ftirdi\u011fi ve sosyalle\u015fme s\u00fcrecine kat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir ortamd\u0131r. Gen\u00e7 ku\u015fak, birinci ve ikinci neslin hayat tecr\u00fcbelerinden istifade eder; burada sosyal, din\u00ee, k\u00fclt\u00fcrel ve iktisad\u00ee alanda bir dayan\u0131\u015fma ve de\u011ferlerin aktar\u0131m\u0131 vard\u0131r. Bireyin ruhsal geli\u015fimi bu tip aile yap\u0131lar\u0131nda daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve dengeli bir seyir izledi\u011fi g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr.<\/p><div id=\"bghab-278250899\" class=\"bghab-icerik-icine bghab-entity-placement\"><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-6203283170189293\" crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-6203283170189293\" \ndata-ad-slot=\"7303146466\" \ndata-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\ndata-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-full-width-responsive=\"true\"><\/ins>\n<script> \n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); \n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n<p>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n bu halini daima g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulundurarak;\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0sevginin, sayg\u0131n\u0131n, huzur ve mutlulu\u011fun h\u00e2kim olaca\u011f\u0131 bir ortam\u0131 haz\u0131rlamal\u0131y\u0131z. \u015eiddetin, ge\u00e7imsizli\u011fin, yalan\u0131n, hilenin, hak ve hukuk tan\u0131mazl\u0131\u011f\u0131n, aldatman\u0131n, kavga ve g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcn\u00fcn ortam\u0131ndan uzak tutmal\u0131y\u0131z. Anne ve baba \u015fefkatini, karde\u015flerin birbirlerini sevip saymalar\u0131n\u0131, ya\u015fanan ortamda var olan nimetleri payla\u015fmay\u0131, feragat ve fedak\u00e2rl\u0131klar\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fczelli\u011fini g\u00f6stermeliyiz. Din\u00ee ve d\u00fcnyevi temel bilgileri \u00f6\u011fretmeliyiz. Hayat hakk\u0131nda do\u011fru bilgiler vererek ayaklar\u0131 yere basan, ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilen insanlar olarak toplumsal hayata kat\u0131lmalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamal\u0131y\u0131z. B\u00f6ylesine fikren ve ruhen sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 nesillerin kuraca\u011f\u0131 insani ili\u015fkiler de daha istikrarl\u0131 olacak, kendi i\u00e7lerinde huzurlu, toplumsal ili\u015fkilerde g\u00fcvenli ve istikrarl\u0131 bir toplum do\u011facakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130\u015fte ge\u00e7en y\u00fczy\u0131l\u0131n ba\u015flar\u0131ndan itibaren maddeci anlay\u0131\u015f ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce bi\u00e7imleri, k\u00fclt\u00fcr ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce d\u00fcnyam\u0131zla\u00a0 birlikte, aile hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da etkilemi\u015f, bu sebeple de bu son derece \u00f6nemli olan aile yap\u0131m\u0131zda da sars\u0131lmalar ba\u015f g\u00f6stermi\u015ftir. \u00d6z itibariyle her ne kadar son derece faydal\u0131 olsalar da, \u00f6zellikle k\u00fcresel \u00f6l\u00e7ekte kitle haberle\u015fme ara\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n artmas\u0131yla birlikte, gelenek, ahlak ve \u00f6z k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fczde meydana gelen tahribat had safhaya ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r<\/strong>. Bunun en belirgin \u00f6rne\u011fi, aile ge\u00e7imsizliklerinin ve\u00a0 bo\u015fanma davalar\u0131n\u0131n artm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131d\u0131r. <strong>Bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n ba\u015fl\u0131ca sebebi olarak; cehalet, her \u015feyin mubah say\u0131lmas\u0131, mahremiyet s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na tecav\u00fcz, televizyonda oynat\u0131lan dizilerin etkisi, \u00e7e\u015fitli yollarla m\u00fcstehcenli\u011fin \u00f6zendirilmesi, e\u015flerin\u00a0 birbirlerine zaman ay\u0131rmamas\u0131 ve birbirlerini aldatmas\u0131, d\u00fcnyevile\u015fme (d\u00fcnyaya a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131k), reklam end\u00fcstrisi sayesinde t\u00fcketim arzu ve \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n k\u00f6r\u00fcklenmesi gibi fakt\u00f6rleri sayabiliriz.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Aile felaketlerinin en \u00f6nemli sebeplerinin ba\u015f\u0131nda yukar\u0131da da i\u015faret edildi\u011fi gibi, erke\u011fin evini, ailesini ve e\u015fini ihmal etmesidir. \u00c7ok kazanma h\u0131rs\u0131yla \u00e7ok \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma, kahvehanelerde\u00a0 ve l\u00fczumsuz yerlerde zaman ve \u00f6m\u00fcr t\u00fcketme gibi sebeplerle evi ve aileyi ihmal felaketle neticelenmektedir. <strong>\u0130slam, erke\u011fin han\u0131m\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6rev ve sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131, kad\u0131n\u0131n beyine kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6rev ve sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131 bir bir ortaya koymu\u015ftur. \u00c7o\u011funlukla bu g\u00f6rev ve sorumluluklar bilinmedi\u011finde ya da ihlal ve ihmal edildi\u011finde ortaya aile y\u0131k\u0131m ve facialar\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. Bu sebeple, aile fertlerinin birbirlerine kar\u015f\u0131 ahlak\u00ee vazifelerini ve sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131 yerine getirmesi b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131maktad\u0131r. Ailenin devam\u0131, mutlulu\u011fu ve\u00a0 gelece\u011fi buna ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Manev\u00ee de\u011fer yarg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n ask\u0131ya al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00fct\u00fcn toplumlarda, ailenin, dolay\u0131s\u0131yla toplumun \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fc\u015f\u00fc ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmazd\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Modernizm ile birlikte aile h\u0131zl\u0131 bir d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm i\u00e7erisine girmi\u015ftir. Ailenin d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm ya\u015famas\u0131yla birlikte ailenin ba\u015f akt\u00f6r\u00fc olan kad\u0131n da bu de\u011fi\u015fim d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmden nasibini alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Modernle\u015fme ile beraber kad\u0131n, s\u00fcregelen yap\u0131s\u0131ndan uzakla\u015fm\u0131\u015f ve de\u011fi\u015fim i\u00e7erisinde kendini bulmu\u015ftur. Modernle\u015fme \u00f6ncesi d\u00f6nemde yeri ev olarak kabul edilen kad\u0131n, ev ve i\u015fyerinin ayr\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131n da etkisiyle, kamusal alanda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f; evdeki \u00fcretimi de\u011fersiz \u00e7abalar olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. <strong>De\u011fi\u015fen aile kurumu ile birlikte toplumun ahlaki ve dini de\u011ferlerinin y\u0131k\u0131m s\u00fcrecine girdi\u011fi ve olduk\u00e7a zay\u0131flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6zlenmi\u015ftir. Ahlaki de\u011ferlerin etkisini yitirmesiyle annelik olgusu toplum nezdinde de\u011ferini yitirmeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Toplumun ahlaki yap\u0131s\u0131 ve psiko-sosyal durumu ne kadar y\u00fcksek ise, refah ve saadeti de \u00f6ylece y\u00fcksek olur. <strong>Evet, asl\u0131nda ahlaks\u0131zl\u0131kla bir toplumun temelleri sessiz sessiz oyulurken bazen hi\u00e7bir \u015fey hissedilmeyebilir.<\/strong> Hissedildi\u011fi anda i\u015f i\u015ften ge\u00e7mi\u015f olabilir. Tam da bu noktada bizim toplumumuz a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli kontrol mekanizmalar\u0131 devreye girebilmektedir. Mahalledeki amcalar, teyzeler, filanca abla g\u00f6r\u00fcrde beni ay\u0131plar gibi. Fakat bu duruma bir g\u00f6z atacak olursak zamanla bu mekanizmalar de fonksiyonlar\u0131n\u0131 yitirmi\u015ftir. Mahallenin var oldu\u011fu, binalar\u0131n m\u00fcstakil ve az katl\u0131 evlerin ya\u015fam alan\u0131, akrabal\u0131k ba\u011flar\u0131n\u0131n kuvvetli oldu\u011fu zamanlarda aile birtak\u0131m farkl\u0131 de\u011ferlere sahipti. Ayn\u0131 zamanda bu ailevi de\u011ferler yapt\u0131r\u0131m g\u00fcc\u00fcne sahipti. <strong>K\u0131nanma duygusu birtak\u0131m tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 kontrol etmekteydi. Modern de\u011ferler dizisi ile birlikte \u00f6nce evlerimizin \u015fekilleri, caddelerimizin isimleri de\u011fi\u015ferek ruhsuz yapay olu\u015fumlar ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131.<\/strong> Daha sonra bu de\u011fi\u015fim ailemizin i\u00e7ine s\u0131zarak ailevi ili\u015fkilerimizi ve de\u011ferlerimizi yok etmeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Ailenin de\u011ferlerinin ba\u011flay\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan kopmas\u0131 sonucu toplumsal bir tak\u0131m kontrol mekanizmalar\u0131 etkisini kaybetmi\u015ftir. Modern hayat ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncenin hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 istilas\u0131 sonucunda geleneksel ailenin korudu\u011fu payla\u015fma, sadakat, yuva bilinci v.b de\u011ferler \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p><div id=\"bghab-1281910754\" class=\"bghab-icerik-icine-10-paragraf bghab-entity-placement\"><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-6203283170189293\" crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-6203283170189293\" \ndata-ad-slot=\"7303146466\" \ndata-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\ndata-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-full-width-responsive=\"true\"><\/ins>\n<script> \n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); \n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n<p>Bat\u0131\u2019da oldu\u011fu gibi \u00fclkemizde de bir tak\u0131m \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeler ya\u015fanmaya ba\u015flanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Her kurumda oldu\u011fu gibi aile kurumunda da \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeler g\u00f6r\u00fclmektedir. <strong>Bat\u0131 ailelerinde olabildi\u011fince serbest ya\u015fam normalle\u015fmi\u015ftir. Bunun yans\u0131malar\u0131n\u0131 kendi \u00fclkemizde de g\u00f6rmekteyiz. T\u00fcm bu olaylar\u0131n neticesinde aile ve evlilik kurumuna olan ilgi azalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/strong> Aile ve evlilik kurumunun tam manas\u0131yla alg\u0131lanamamas\u0131, ailenin alternatifsiz akt\u00f6rleri olan kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fin sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131n tam manas\u0131yla anla\u015f\u0131lamamas\u0131 sonucunda kurumda da\u011f\u0131lmalar, y\u0131pranmalar s\u00f6z konusu olmu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00d6zellikle \u00fclkemizde tanzimattan itibaren aile ve kad\u0131n \u00fczerinde ciddi bir plan yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bizim toplumumuzda modernle\u015fme bat\u0131l\u0131la\u015fma olarak alg\u0131land\u0131. Bat\u0131l\u0131la\u015fma i\u00e7in aile en b\u00fcy\u00fck engeldir. Bu anlay\u0131\u015f<\/strong> <strong>aile a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan kad\u0131n\u0131 ve erke\u011fi birbirini b\u00fct\u00fcnleyen varl\u0131klar de\u011fil, birbirine kar\u015f\u0131t hale gelmesine yol a\u00e7m\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Oysa kad\u0131n ve erkek birbirini b\u00fct\u00fcnleyen varl\u0131klar olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong> Bu nokta da aile a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fin birbirinden kopu\u015funun sebepleri irdelenmelidir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kurtulu\u015f, ancak insan\u0131n vahyin sesine kulak vererek ayd\u0131nlanmas\u0131yla, k\u0131saca, hayat\u0131 anlamland\u0131rmakla ger\u00e7ekle\u015fecektir. <\/strong>Modernitenin ac\u0131mas\u0131z sald\u0131r\u0131lar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda M\u00fcsl\u00fcman aile yap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 korumak ve kollamak, var olu\u015f k\u00f6klerimize yani inan\u00e7 de\u011ferlerimize yeniden d\u00f6nmekle m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Aile g\u00fc\u00e7lendirilmelidir. Bunu sa\u011flayabilmek i\u00e7in evlilikleri g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmeliyiz. Evlili\u011fi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmek i\u00e7in emek vermek gerekiyor. \u0130\u015f insanlar\u0131 nas\u0131l i\u015fi i\u00e7in yat\u0131r\u0131m yap\u0131yorsa aile i\u00e7in de yat\u0131r\u0131m yap\u0131lmal\u0131.<\/strong> Genellikle bizim toplumumuzda kad\u0131n \u00e7ift kariyerli oluyor, yani bir evde kad\u0131n erkek ikisi de \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsa kad\u0131n eve geliyor evde ikinci meslek ba\u015fl\u0131yor; ev han\u0131ml\u0131\u011f\u0131. Babada sadece i\u015f adaml\u0131\u011f\u0131 var veya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsa i\u015f hayat\u0131yla ilgili rol\u00fc var eve geldi\u011fi zaman aya\u011f\u0131n\u0131 uzat\u0131yor. Oysa kad\u0131n evde de \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya devam ediyor. E\u011fer e\u015f \u00e7al\u0131\u015facaksa evlili\u011fin ba\u015f\u0131nda bunun konu\u015fulmas\u0131, hayat\u0131n bir payla\u015f\u0131m oldu\u011funun iki taraf\u0131n da kabul edilmesi ve birbirlerine yard\u0131m etmesi gerekti\u011finin konu\u015fulmas\u0131 gerekiyor. \u00a0Kad\u0131nlar bu konuda fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k yap\u0131yorlar, sorun \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131n diye yoruluyorlar ve erken y\u0131pran\u0131yorlar. Erkek ise bu kendi hakk\u0131ym\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcyor ve \u00e7ocuklar gittikten sonra da \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma ba\u015fl\u0131yor. \u00a0Elli ya\u015f\u0131ndan sonra bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck sebeplerinden birisi de budur.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Aile, millet ve toplumlar\u0131n temelini te\u015fkil eden \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir kurumdur. Ailenin bir arada olmas\u0131 ve devam\u0131 noktas\u0131nda, e\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki sevgi, sayg\u0131, anla\u015fma ve uyuma ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Bir \u00fclkenin gelece\u011fini temsil eden sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve mutlu nesiller yeti\u015ftirmek, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 e\u011fitip, onlar\u0131n yar\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flam temeller \u00fczerine in\u015fa etmek mutlu aile tablosu \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olabilir. <\/strong><\/p><div id=\"bghab-2887696948\" class=\"bghab-icerik-icine-15-paragraf bghab-entity-placement\"><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-6203283170189293\" crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-6203283170189293\" \ndata-ad-slot=\"7303146466\" \ndata-ad-layout=\"in-article\"\ndata-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-full-width-responsive=\"true\"><\/ins>\n<script> \n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); \n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n<p>Modernizm ile birlikte geleneksel konumundan uzakla\u015fan ve de\u011fi\u015fim s\u00fcrecine giren kad\u0131n, de\u011ferlerinin tekrar fark\u0131na varmal\u0131, toplumu yeti\u015ftirme gibi \u00f6nemli bir misyonu \u00fcstlendi\u011finin fark\u0131na varmal\u0131d\u0131r. Toplum a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan ise, aile merkeze al\u0131narak planlar yap\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bunun i\u00e7in gerekli \u015fartlar haz\u0131rlanmal\u0131 hatta bu \u00e7er\u00e7evede e\u011fitimler, seminerler d\u00fczenlenmelidir. Aile kurumu fonksiyonlar\u0131n\u0131 geli\u015ftirmelidir. Kad\u0131n rolleri, stat\u00fcs\u00fc, konumu \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde yeniden in\u015fa edilmelidir.<\/p>\n<p>Yoksa ak\u0131bet k\u00f6t\u00fcd\u00fcr. Bizi sava\u015f meydanlar\u0131nda yenemeyenler, aileyi, de\u011ferlerimizi yok ederek i\u00e7imize s\u0131zd\u0131lar. <strong>\u0130\u015fin k\u00f6t\u00fc taraf\u0131 muhafazak\u00e2r oldu\u011funu iddia eden dindar kesimde de aile kavram\u0131 anlam\u0131n\u0131 yitirmeye ba\u015flad\u0131, bo\u015fanmalar, aldatmalar, gayri me\u015fru ili\u015fkiler art\u0131k kan\u0131ksanmaya ba\u015flad\u0131 sanki. \u0130n\u015fallah yan\u0131l\u0131yorumdur<\/strong>!..<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ailenin korunmas\u0131, toplumun bilin\u00e7lendirilmesi, \u00e7iftlerin e\u011fitilmesi, ailenin yeniden in\u015fas\u0131 konusunda seferberlik ilan edilmelidir. E\u011fitim kurumlar\u0131, dini kurumlar, \u00dcniversiteler, STK\u2019lar\u00a0 vb. herkes elini ta\u015f\u0131n alt\u0131na koymal\u0131. Aileye, de\u011ferlerimize sava\u015f a\u00e7anlara kar\u015f\u0131 herkes harekete ge\u00e7melidir. TV dizilerinde gayri me\u015fru ili\u015fkileri \u00f6zendirenlere prim vermeyelim. (Eminim \u015fu g\u00fcnlerde bolca dizi vb.izliyorsunuz, iyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn kime hizmete diyor bunlar?) Umre\u2019ye defalarca gitme yerine, gelin evlenemeyen \u00e7iftlerin d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnlerini yapal\u0131m, aileye sahip \u00e7\u0131kal\u0131m. Unutmay\u0131n ki; k<\/strong>\u00fcffar\u0131n beldelerinde T\u00fcrkl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc, M\u00fcsl\u00fcmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 koruyabilenler, aile sayesinde korudular, ayakta kalabildiler.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Durum \u00e7ok ciddidir!..Korona(Covit-19) in\u015fallah gelir(sab\u0131r ve bilin\u00e7le) ge\u00e7er ama aile olmadan toplum ayakta kalamaz. <\/strong><\/p>\n<div id=\"bghab-1604039158\" class=\"bghab-yazi-altinda bghab-entity-placement\"><div class=\"bghab-adlabel\">Reklamlar<\/div><script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- bghaber-yaz\u0131-sonu -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-6203283170189293\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"4222328180\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"auto\"\r\n     data-full-width-responsive=\"true\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/div><br style=\"clear: both; display: block; float: none;\"\/>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>D\u00fczce \u0130l Milli E\u011fitim M\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, Maarif M\u00fcfetti\u015fi, E\u011fitimci Yazar Nevzat \u00d6ZT\u00dcRK Toplumun \u00e7ekirde\u011fini aile olu\u015fturur. 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